When writing Be and Become during the latter half of the 90's, the various revisions of the manuscript1 included chapter (Nine) titled as "Men are particles, women are waves".

However, prior to publication I had the thought (contrary to my better instincts) that the chapter would best be titled differently, to what is now "Material men, wonderful women". It was, I thought, less likely to be dismissed as 'stereotyping' people, even though I felt at ease with the "Men are particles ..." title.  "Men are particles, women are waves" quite adroitly and succinctly expresses the inherent dynamics of life towards individualism, and collectivism -- men and male animals do (as a general rule!) bias themselves towards the hard, physical, individualistic side to life (characteristic of particles). Women do bias themselves towards the soft, interconnective, cooperative, relationship side to life (characteristic of waves and fields).

Stereotyping?

Hardly -- walk down any street asking everyone encountered their occupation.  Then note the gender percentages of those in the 'hard-sciences', engineering and Information Technologies, compared with those in care services, humanities and communications.

The bias is not because men or women are 'pushed' into the various professions, or due to restrictions such as 'glass ceilings'. There's been plenty of attempts to get more women into IT, but they simply just aren't as interested ... as a GENERAL rule!. Yes, there's always exceptions, but we're talking 'bias' in numbers, of percentages, not of exceptions.

Anyway, this all goes to remind me of the need to follow my intuition, not what the naysayers might say, or what I think might be best in terms of my work.

It doesn't pay to second-guess that which is beyond modeling or explanation -- the intuitive.

The "Men are particles, women are waves" description works well to explain the behaviour of the sexes, and not just for people, but also for animals, plants and ... wait for it ... quanta as well.

As explained previously, very small bits of physical stuff comes in the form of either masculine 'fermions' or feminine 'bosons'.

The particle nature is a short-pulsed actuality, coming in jumps and lumps. The nonlocal ground from which it arises, is interconnecting, fluid, potential, creative source -- see Fig. 4 (right).

Additional masculine-feminine characteristics are provided in The Table of One and All.

Chapter Six of the book features the Table of One and All, with excerpts as follows:

[Excerpt, Be and Become, Copyright, 1996 - 2000]

The Table of One and All encompasses and includes all aspects of life into one framework of understanding. In view of its 'infinitely-inclusive' framework, it is able to be used in all areas of experience to reveal deeper insights into life.

The TOA provides deeper context and understanding of relationships, religious ideals, scientific facts, disease, wellbeing, happiness, politics, sociology, psychology etc.

Key Concepts (Chapter Six):

1. Since all is interconnected, the individual exists within a greater “oneness.”
2. Existence is the 'inseparable duality' of being Known, Defined and Individual while being Unknowable, Indefinite “Whole.”
3. We are, in a deeper sense, “Undivided Wholeness” experiencing existence as ourselves.
4. Existence is the unfathomable paradox of Diversity within an Indivisible Unity.
5. The wave-particle duality of matter and energy, separateness-within-oneness, or diversity-within-unity, has two attributes: the quality of being and the function of doing.
6. Human cultures (particularly Western cultures) have largely focused on exploring the physical, technological dimension of existence. This has alienated many from their 'spiritual' roots (nonlocal awareness and potentials).
7. In respect of the dynamic holomovement, we can readily appreciate that humanity is nearing adulthood, having played enough “outside” with the technology and the toys.
8. The Finite within the Infinite is a universal principle.
9. The Table of One and All presents in tabular form how human societies, plants, animals and inanimate matter have embodied the indivisible duality of One and All.
10. Traditionally, males have leant towards being “separate from” (hence the masculine tendency towards the isolated, competitive, combative suitor).
11. Females have leant towards being “together with” (hence the feminine tendency towards communities, families and herds).
12. The “left-wing” of the TOA is correlated with community, socialism and the immeasurable (spiritual).
13. The “right-wing” of the TOA is correlated with individuality, capitalism (the getting of personal wealth, possessions) and the measurable (physical).
14. The left-wing (of the TOA) is not opposite the right-wing. It makes no sense to say that the individual is opposite the community.
15. The Theory of One and All (TOA) provides the framework with which to understand all aspects of life.
16. Apparent contradictions within the Table (Theory) of One and All (TOA) are fundamentally due to the inability to perfectly separate the part from the “undivided whole.”

Going further, Chapter Nine provides a fuller, more detailed explanation of how masculine-particle, and feminie-wave nature "spins out" into everyday life.

[Excerpt, Be and Become, Copyright, 1996 - 2000]

Key Concepts (Chapter Nine):

1. Males and females attempt to embody the physical (objective-matter) and the spiritual (subjective-wave) nature respectively.
2. Men (and males in general) lean towards the embodiment of the physical (objective, material) nature of “separateness”—competitiveness and the control of structure, order and hierarchy.
3. Women (and females in general) lean towards the embodiment of the spiritual (subjective-wave) nature of “togetherness”—cooperativeness and the development of non-hierarchical communities (herds).
4. Women have traditionally lived longer because they allow (and are allowed) greater emotional expression than men. They are more aware of their feelings and are in greater touch with the spiritual. They are nurtured by their intuitive innerawareness of a supportive spiritual dimension.
5. Men, in being more objectively orientated (i.e. preoccupied with things) are less able to deal with life’s emotional demands. Western men are over six times more likely than women to commit suicide as a result of a relationship break up.
6. Generally, men compete, women cooperate.
7. Men tend to be the objective, competitive sex.
8. Women tend to be the subjective, cooperative sex.
9. Due to the belief in “separateness” (and spiritual perfection) women are perceived in Western societies as being more virtuous than men.
10. Due to the perception that women are more virtuous than men, women are held in higher esteem (are “placed on pedestals”).
11. When women step down or fall from their exalted position of virtue and goodness, they are perceived to have plunged into the depths of depravity. Hence the dichotomy of perfect madonna or damned whore.
12. Accordingly, women are perceived and expected to be more refined than men. They are not accorded the same freedom to belch and fart. They are supposed to be chaste, pure of morals and behavior. Hence the historical emphasis upon virgins and feminine chastity.
13. Men in being the objective sex, can often treat women (along with the rest of reality) as objective “things” to be used or abused at will. Men can have less empathy for others. Hence the reason (in part) for men being the warriors and the murderers.
14. Since men are perceived within the context of “separateness” (Figure 7.2) as being “bad” while also being relatively emotionless and externally orientated, they have in the past looked outside themselves to women for goodness, innocence and vulnerability. But now that women have become “masculine” (objective, independent, assertive, competitive) men (who have remained emotionally distant) look for that lost innocence and vulnerability in children. Hence the rise of pedophilia.
15. Women have traditionally been expected to be submissive and less intelligent than men. Women well-know the expectation to act the “dumb blond” in order to get along with men.
16. Men are judged by how useful they can be to women.
17. Women are judged by how aesthetically pleasing (beautiful) they are to men.
18. Business is “masculine”—the pursuit of objective, measurable outcomes. Business is competitive, structured and disciplined.
19. Money is “masculine”—people get paid to “do” not to “be.”
20. Women are better at parallel processing (multitasking).
21. Men are better at serial processing (focussing on a single task at hand).
22. Women have more societal freedom to express their emotions. That is, the societal constraints of (Western) cultures forms a downward causation which dis-allows men from being as free with their emotions.
23. Men, in being objectively orientated—they see the world in terms of “things”— remain stuck to some extent in adolescence (the phase of development which focuses on independence, objectivity and differences).
24. Motherhood is played down because it is not a highly functional role in the “main  game”—the competitive world of technology and business.
25. Since time immemorial women have been the embodiment of mystery.
26. Men have been the embodiment of order, structure and hierarchy.
27. Before feminism: men were bad but powerful; women were powerless but good and virtuous. Post-feminism: women are good and powerful; men have remained bad while becoming increasingly powerless.
28. As a result, the “balance” between the sexes has been temporarily tilted towards women. Men are around four times more likely to commit suicide as a result.
29. It is because of our racial immaturity (Western belief in “separateness”) that we see women as victims, pure and innocent and men as violent, aggressive and bad.
30. The dichotomy of the sexes is due to the Western habit of dividing the physical (the masculine) from the spiritual (the feminine).
31. Women, in having become more “masculine” reinforce the societal pressure on men to be the ever more competitive, competent provider. Studies show that women still tend to “marry up.” Since women have themselves moved “up” (in terms of competency, control, assertiveness—masculinity), men who wish to be partnered need to be even more competitive and competent (“masculine”).

See also

• Q. What does the Paⁱradox Rule reveal about sex, gender and relationships?
• The immense importance of understanding masculine and feminine
• The quantum physics of sex

• 1. As archived in the Library of Congress